Trisha Proud, guest on the Rocking Your Role Show, shares her insights gaining an being your best.
Achievement and success
Whether we like it or not we are born into a culture that values achievement and success. We live in a society that promotes competition. From our very first steps in this world, we are pushed to score the most, reach the highest, to be the best. Whatever we do in life, we are concerned, or perhaps sometimes even obsessed, in one way or another with our performance. Whether it is measured in the grades we achieve at school, professional degrees, pay rates, number of friends, or the sex appeal of our looks.
Competition
Beware of being too competitive. Ask yourself this question:…”Do we ever succeed in outperforming everybody else?” The answer is “No…. Never”………and, frankly, there is absolutely no point in trying.
Difference between good and bad
As social creatures, our performance is inevitably measured against other people using the artificial standards someone else invents. We use them like stars in the night sky – they guide us along our path, showing the right direction, but they are too far away to achieve. These commonly agreed notions of success somehow form our actions. We know the difference between good work and bad work, care and indifference, beauty and ugliness.
Safe: average: mediocre
And we follow along. We succeed, more or less, in the areas of our natural talents. And we try not to venture in the areas where we lag behind. Knowing that we will never be the best, the first, the greatest – because the competition is way too big – we let it go. We work towards the safe average and are quite content with it. But what is another word for the average? Right, that will be “mediocre”!
Comfortable existence
We tend to spend lots of time slacking. Working good enough to be paid for, cooking food edible enough to eat it, loving strong enough to be loved in return…. It’s a comfortable existence, but an average one. Following this luring path of least resistance, we ourselves become the average. Good enough to function in a society, provide for our existence, and procreate – but too mediocre to set on fire that sparkle each and every one of us is born with.
Do not mimic or duplicate
Your mission should be not to duplicate the success of other people, trying to mimic their actions, words, looks. Your mission should be to succeed in being yourselves. Making the most out of what you already have; using wisely your own resources to the fullest without stealing the easy path of following the template.
At Partners in Solutions when we provide consultancy or are delivering training we advocate the ethos that says:
“Be the best person you can possibly be…..
– If you are on stage – be the best actor you can be…..
– If you’re serving food in the restaurant – be the best waiter you can be…..
– Just make the most out of yourself. Otherwise, why bother doing it?”
Learn to love the difference
It’s really not that complicated. Just remember, whenever you’re doing something, try doing it a little bit better than usual. You’ll love the difference!
Turn your sparkle into a star
In summary the only way to let that sparkle turn into a star is to be the best person YOU can possibly be. Be the most beautiful person YOU can possibly be. Be the best professional YOU can possibly be. If you would like to learn how you can turn your sparkle or the sparkle of your team into bright shining stars via training or mentoring then please contact us today either by using the comment box below or via the ‘contact page’ on our website.
You can view Trisha’s interview on You Tube
Jenny Garrett is the Executive Coach and founder of Reflexion Associates, a leadership and coaching consultancy. She’s also the author of Rocking Your Role, a how-to guide to success for female breadwinners.